Improve Your Marriage With These Magical Words

Marriage takes work.

Recently, I posted audio with an important key to improve any marriage. While absolutely a wonderful and effective key, I decided it worthwhile to share a quicker, easier way to improve your marriage.

There are seven words that makeup three phrases that can help you fall back in love with your spouse. All three phrases are used often between Steve and me. I believe they are instrumental in successful marriages. They are so important, Steve shares them when performing many wedding ceremonies.

Have you already guessed the words? Did you cheat and look ahead? (I would’ve if I could see) Let’s see if you’re right.

“I Love You”

Shared from the heart, these three words are a MUST in a marriage. Can’t use as a cliché’ or trust will wash away faster than dirt in a downpour. The words, “I love you” tell your spouse he/she is special to only you. It communicates they’re desirable and are definitely accepted by you as is.

This powerful phrase provides much-needed affirmation, giving permission to mess up and be yourself, without fearing an argument, or worse divorce. It builds confidence and creates a safe environment. The more these words are used, the more powerful they become. It is three words that can never be overused if coming from the heart. These words can be used medicinally in the heat of an argument. Saying “I love you” takes the sting away like aspirin does a headache.

DOSAGE: Use at least once a day, but works best when used liberally.

“I’m sorry”

Omitting these words cracks the foundation in any marriage. While the most difficult to give, they demonstrate grace and mercy. Admitting you’re sorry is saying you realize you aren’t perfect and don’t expect your spouse to be either. It ignites forgiveness, giving a second chance. Admitting some level of personal responsibility requires bravery and strength. More importantly, it puts both parties back on equal footing. Refusing to apologize not only sparks anger and discontent but divides. Avoid marital earthquakes by saying you are sorry. Find one part you are sorry for: hurting their feelings, yelling, or calling names. It’s not necessary to apologize for imparting advice, but you easily could have delivered your message at a better time, tone, or by choosing better words.

Contrary to popular belief, not everyone can be right all the time. Instead of it being your way or the highway, try these two words on for size.

Manners have almost become obsolete, making these words a rare gem in most marriages.
Hearing these appreciative words affirms a person has done something right, making them willing to try it again. These words encourage. What does encouragement do? It makes the recipient feel good. A smile breaks out for the giver to see, who in turn, feels proud. Everyone is a winner. Both individuals feel good – one for doing right, and the other for making someone feel good. It’s the icing on the cake – use them and you’ll be eating a lot more cake. Try making these 3 phrases a habit in your marriage. You might be shocked to see where it carries you.

Question: How do these words make you feel? How often do you use them? Share your thoughts in the comments below. I appreciate your taking time to read this and sharing it with your friends. Many blessings to you as you implement these words in your daily lives.